Its your life.. Live it!!!

"Live all you can; it's a mistake not to. It doesn't so much matter what you do in particular, so long as you have your life. If you haven't had that, what have you had?" Henry James The Ambassadors

So many of us stop living our lives to the fullest at sooo many instances. On top of that, we blame situations for that and also sometimes others who try to tell you that you could be better, saying that "You wont understand"! :)
Always keep complaining that things are being forced on you. Why is it that, when you take an action/decision, you always expect a positive outcome. Why is the negative outcome taken so badly that you stop yourself from doing "anything" at all. Agreed that we are "human beings". We have to grieve, feel sad etc etc. However, the only person who makes you stay in that state for a long* time is yourself!

Dont get angry reading this post.. I am just trying to tell, its your life, do not let anyone/anything control it.. Live it to the maxxxxxxx!!! Do not miss out on anything. Life has joys hidden in every millisecond.. why miss it and make a fuss later?! I really want to write a lot.. however I think if the message is not clear, it wont be even after writing a million lines :) As always, its left to you! (yeah rite.. right center front back top bottom.. everywhere :P)

Getting what you deserve....

I believe that people eventually end up getting what they actually deserve.. Good or Bad.. and even if they are not looking for it :)

Appreciation

Before I start, Appreciation is not only for some good work. It is basically recognizing the fact that there was some work done by someone is worth telling them that it was good. It can also be a simple "Thank You". Appreciation is something which few times is very hard to see. That would seem a little odd right. One would expect appreciation to be given when a work worth appreciating is done.. However, it seems that its not the case most of the times. There may be several reasons for the same...

One would reason is, you really don't think the work is not worth appreciating. Well, nothing much can be done in this case. The worst thing to be done in this case would be to try and make one realize that appreciation is missed. As long as one feels the need to appreciate, its of no use. Reasons for which the work may not be appreciated are equally many. As a simple example.. in a restaurant, when a waiter serves you well... Few think that its his duty and you would give a tip anyway at the end.. Hmmm.. may be I think differently and tell them "thank you" everytime they serve something or get water.. Even though its their duty, they did something to serve me and that according to me derserved appreciation.

One other reason could be that, your ego comes in the way of appreciation.. (This is not the kind I hope which would stop someone to tell a thanks to a waiter in a hotel :D). Some people wont want to accept that you are doing something which deserves appreciation.... As bad as this seems to be, it can be a source of motivation to achieve great success :)

So, whats the big deal.. nothing.. just do consider good things done to you or something which makes things helpful to you and show a little appreciation.. Sometimes that is the only thing people expect from you.. not even money! I honestly think that the world would be a better place if everyone learn to appreciate things done by others.... No, it wont stop crime, wont bring down poverty or unemployment.. It just makes people feel better and happy :)

What better than to spread a little happiness around!!!

Looking for FRIENDSHIP......

This post is dedicated to all those ppl who are looking for FRIENDSHIP(or so I think) in communities like Orkut etc..

Looking at the scraps/messages they leave, they seem very innocent and honest :D Take a look at this msg in a scrapbook of a girl for eg:

"hello ...........its from iran but i study software computer in india ...i looking for a single girl for married in latvia becaz i wanna come there in futre ,,,how is u idea?"

I mean.. can you get more honest than this!!? If the guy above is not the most honest person, I wonder who else can it be!!! Now if such an honesty does not get you a friend or in this case the girl to appreciate this "idea" and decide to get married to him.. then honesty is not the way ahead :P

If you look around.. u will find a lot of such scraps desperately looking for friendship. Sincerely hope that all such souls get the friendship they are looking for :P

What after "Next"

Me and 3 of my friends went to this movie "Next" this weekend. The movie actually ended with no actual "conclusion" (In other words, it actually didnt end!). So this led us to "conclude" that there will be further movies in the series.. most probably this will be a another series of 3 movies..

So the discussion was, what could be the probable name of the "next" movie in the series..

It would be "next->next" :D :D

So, continuing on the same "line"s, the 3rd movie in the series is supposed to be the "end" of the series.. so the only name possible for the last movie will be:

"NULL" :D :P

Okay now, stay calm.. no need to get so angry.. dont come chasing me.. this was a team effort by 4 friends :D :D

Becoming good friends....

You might have many good friends... many close ones and many near and dear ones. However, they wont be all that, the instant you meet them.. Ever wondered how it was the first time when you spoke, what about and how stupid those things seem to be now :P (well, not always.. but true most of the times)

I think this happens when you meet anyone for the first time. One would be a little cautious, a little apprehensive, a little conscious, a little of everything and making sure there is not too much of anything.. People will try not to take things too easy or be too friendly at the risk of the other person mistaking you to be someone without much dignity (Should maintain some level rite initially :P) However, its also often true that, with the few people who eventually end up becoming ur good friends.. you will sometime or the other recap as to how things were and how they are now.. its the exact opposite.. amazing rite :)

How would it be.....

"To talk to a person for the first time as if they are already one of your good friends"!?

Best case, might be taken well and reciprocated and voila.. there you go, you got yourself a good friend :D
Worst case, a shut up and get lost look :P
Average case.. well, you will be considered a gone case :D :D

People are very apprehensive to be frank and its for a good/valid reason. It takes time for someone to trust. It hurts the most when your trust is broken.. and thats a valid reason for someone not trust anyone at all.. However, its very hard not to trust anyone.. It would be impossible to survive without trust. And slowly beginning to trust the new person you met.. you get a good friend :) (cant generalize this... few people can still break it :))

Everything in moderation works for most of the cases... (Myself never learnt to do that anyway :) )

Silence....

There are many a times when you would really really want no words to be spoken.. Just the silence.... to savor the moment, not to break the grieving, not to stop the laughter, or not to break the focus/concentration...Silence is one those very few things which can mean many different things at different times.. approval, denial, anger, happiness, grief, a beginning, en END etc etc..!!

A silence can convey so much, that words will always fall short of...


PS: Thought will give a break posting pictures and put some words in between... and ended up writing something about silence.. what an irony :D

More....

Few good pics I have taken...

Hey.. I am going to put up few of the better pictures I have taken all these time.. may be they are very few and not so good.. I will put them up anyway :D :P...

Soo.. here we go...

Making amends....

While I am trying to make amends for not posting anything for the last 3 days... I am wondering.. (I hear many of you say, here we go again.. darn it, why does this guy have to wonder at all :P).

Amends cannot be made for all the things in life. First of all what is the point of making amends. More than pleasing anyone or to try and rectify something which went wrong, its more of a face saving thing. It is something which one does to reduce the guilt felt by oneself. Guilt can be worst punishment one can ever come across. A guiltless mind is the happiest I would say! Most of us are guilty for sooo many reasons. Be it for not remembering something or not working towards a goal or be someone which you always wanted to be. For not taking or letting others take the right decision at the right time... and so on....

So, it seems like there is no way you can be guiltless. May be by trying to make amends one could move closer to such a state... however its very very rare that one stays in this state for a long time... This is because, we seldom stop at anything. Not only trying a lot of different things without much direction, we also many a times tend to repeat the same old mistakes which we always do :) There is no escape..

Now, there is no need to give up all hopes and take sainthood... There are few possible ways one remains sane::
* One can stop being idealistic, and a perfectionist and "adjust" with things..
* One can chose to ignore all this "crap" and live without much cares and assume all is good..
* Never question and never explain..
* Accept that all these things happen and try and keep yourself going on.... whilst making amends ;)