RT 14.09.10

It is wrong to assume/"understand" that "something" will give the other person(read loved one) "happiness" and work hard to get them that, sometimes even going against their wish. This is simply because it is never possible to give "happiness".

The best one can, I think, is to make them aware of the choices the world has to offer and give them the education/understanding/"ability to make the right decision", which will eventually lead to happiness and a higher state of living itself.
Its similar to, trying to get the loved one an award for a competition :P - instead of, helping them prepare for it and let them win it themselves, which would give them, true lasting happiness :-)